50 Shades of Keeping your Husband Happy!

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Of course this movie was going to cause controversy but it’s crazy to me at the extremes those “haters” are going to. I am a week late on this post and it seems all the hype is gone now.  I think it’s because the Magic Mike 2 trailor came out.  Anways, what I don’t understand is how people get upset about a sexual movie but they allow their kids to watch movies like hunger games and the Purge. Of course this is not a kid friendly movie but are you that big of a prude to think it’s so bad? Here’s my thing, unless you are a nun or a priest or just celibate for life because you choose, this movie should be a good learning experience. I’m not saying every relationship needs to have a dominant and submissive one but I think in each sexual encounter you have with your partner there’s always one or the other.

With this being said, one of the most important things in a relationship is to be sexually attracted to one another. You can have all the care and love for someone in the world, but if you are not sexually compatible than I’m sorry but you might as well be best friends. I believe the number one reason most people cheat is because their sexual experiences are lacking.  Yes, money, kids, work and other things stress people out but why as couples can’t we all get through these stresses together instead of fighting.  Even if you have sex with your significant other on a daily basis, if you don’t spice it up once in a while, don’t you feel unsatisfied? I’m not saying everyone needs to go out and reenact this movie by getting whips, paddles, and zip ties, but I believe you need to do more than the same sexual positions. Everyone from time to time needs to change it up. Whether it being adding toys, watching porn together, role play, etc, you have to do something different. Ladies if you don’t add excitement and say you know for sure your man isn’t cheating, he is. I don’t mean with another woman but he’s definitely using his hand most likely watching other naked woman on his computer or TV. Maybe you don’t care if he does that but in a way doesn’t it make you feel unsatisfied?

I am a firm believer that most couples no matter how open you are in a relationship one or both of you have a sexual desire secret. Keeping it bottled up and to yourself almost is like cheating, not only your partner but yourself. If you have a sexual desire and are embarrassed to tell the other person don’t. It only keeps your desires bottled in and really gives you no satisfaction. I believe telling your partner about your desires increases both of your sexual peaks and makes your relationship closer to each other.

What I’m getting at is 50 Shades of Grey was based on a book series that of course caused a little controversy when it came out but with 100 million copies sold we all supported it. It actually brought many woman who read it, back to that sexual spark they once had. If you say the book didn’t you are lying.

I have to admit what you read in this blog until this point has been my opinion before seeing the movie. Now that I saw the movie my opinion still hasn’t changed and in fact, I didn’t even think that it was bad at all. I’m not going to spoil the movie for those of you that haven’t seen it, but I will say it did not in any way degrade woman. The female was willingly giving herself to him. For the most part, she wanted and enjoyed everything they did.  If you read the book it is completely on point with it.   I do think as a reader we visualize a lot more than what the movie entailed; but if they made this movie how most woman pictured it from reading, then it wouldn’t be in theaters because it would have to be a hot and sexy porn. I liked the movie but I didn’t love it of course because I just picutred different actors playing the lead roles.  My husband surprisingly really liked the movie and didn’t understand why everyone acts like it is just for females. He didn’t read the book of course.

Anyways, my main advice to anyone in a relationship would be this: Stay sexy, flirty, and spice it up.  You want to spend your life with the one you are with.  You have to be able to always experience new things together.

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New Year’s Eve Wedding

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Who wouldn’t want to attend a New Year’s Eve wedding especially when this amazing couple are the hosts? I first spoke to Joey and Lori right after the holidays in the beginning of 2014. The way we were introduced is bittersweet. They had booked an amazing officiant, Reverend Jimmy Mac with whom I have worked with in the past and became a great mentor. They knew if he approved than I was the perfect fit for them seeing as Lori’s stepfather actually attended High School with Jimmy Mac. About a month before the wedding we had shocking news that saddened all of us which was the sudden passing of a great friend and amazing man Jimmy Mac. If it weren’t for him, I would not have been part of this amazing and gorgeous wedding day and I know he was with us all in spirit.

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Lori and Joey met online.  One of my blogs “First BLIND Date” was actually inspired by them.  They met after months of speaking online and had the perfect date at Lori’s sister’s house.  He was blindfolded when he showed up as well as Lori and they sat for hours talking to each other and enjoying each other blindfold.  Lori’s bridesmaid actually put on the whole date and listened through baby monitors.  At the end of the date Joey couldn’t take it any longer and had to see his gorgeous date.  Please see my past blog for more information on “First Blind Dates”.

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Lori had one request for her wedding and that was she wanted it on New Years Eve. We decided to rent a suite and have a New Years party/wedding done Vegas style. Since we began planning so far out, most hotels did not know the room rates and if there would even be a suite available for them to rent. After using my negation skills I believe we could not have chose a better location. Joey and Lori were wed in a two story loft suite at the M Resort. For those of you unfamiliar with this resort, it is located about two miles south of Mandalay Bay off the strip but still on Las Vegas Blvd. With breathtaking 270 degree views you can not go wrong with this choice in venue. They rented the two connecting rooms as well.  One room we had all the catering in and the other room we had a photobooth in for guests to enjoy.  The photobooth doubled as favors for their guests and was another guestbook for the couple.

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Being a New Year’s Eve wedding, their theme was a fun, elegant party.  They served their guests hot and cold Hors D’oeurves and an assortment of Beer, Wine, liquor and of course Champagne.  Lori and Joey love Rotari Rose so I special ordered 2 cases for them through the liquor distributor.  As guests entered the room for the ceremony, they were served Champagne or Beer.  Lori joked that she had “Champagne taste on a Beer Budget” so the preceremony drinks were perfect for her taste.  We used the rest of the champagne as a midnight toast when we did a countdown to midnight.  Each champagne flute was rimmed with gold sugar to add that extra elegant touch for their New Year’s Eve wedding.

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The two story suite was set up perfectly for guests to enjoy music and dancing.  The DJ was set up on the top floor balcony overlooking the bottom level of the suite.  The bottom is where they guests were able to dance and get their drinks from the bar.  It was the perfect touch for any hotel suite wedding.  As I mentioned previously, the M Resort has breathtaking views.  On New Year’s Eve at midnight something beautiful happens in Las Vegas in which their guests enjoyed perfect views from.  The Las Vegas strip has fireworks in different locations throughout the strips which was the perfect ending to a beautiful wedding.  I even got a little choked up by the fireworks and had tears in my eyes.  You can’t make up or dream of such a beautiful fairy tale.

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Finally at the end of the night just after the fireworks, they wanted guests to grab their coats, a drink, and meet us downstairs for a sparkler send off.  Everyone who came received sparklers and we timed it just right to give the couple their final send off.  It was a magical moment for Joey and Lori and definitely a memorable wedding/ New Year’s for everyone who attended.  In my opinion, one of the best ways to celebrate New Year’s Eve is a wedding.  Especially if you can make it intimate and beautiful like this Suite wedding.  No one likes planning their New Year’s so why not plan it for them with not only a great party  but by sharing your love for one another in front of your favorite and closest friends.

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A special thanks to this gorgeous couple for letting us be part of their day and to all the vendors who helped make it happen:

Wedding Planner: Desirable Events by Desi (www.desirableevent.com)

Wedding Venue: Loft Suite at the M Resort

Photographers: Susie and Will Pictures

Officiant: Pastor Pete (elegant las vegas weddings)

DJ/Photobooth/Uplight: Greg D’angelo (Elegant Entertainment)

Flowers: By Dzign

Decor: Desirable Events by Desi

Cake: Babycakes at M Resort

Bartender: RJ Wojtowicz

Catering: M Resort

**All photos provided by Susie and Will Pictures**

To plan your Las Vegas wedding, a suite wedding, New year’s eve wedding, or destination wedding, please contact me at desi@desirableevent.com.